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Name: Walter
Country: Canada
State: British Columbia
Metro: Vancouver
Birthday: 9/15/1986
Gender: Male
Interests: music, sports, singing, driving, computer(anything to do w/ it), TV, movie, mall, video games, anything fun that makes me stay out of my house for the night, probably some more in there, but cant think of it right now.
Expertise: comp, comp, and more comp... but y waste time on this site?
Occupation: Student
Industry: Computers (Internet)
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and now, a piece for your consideration...
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"What Happened to All the Nice Guys?"
Date: 2007-11-19, 3:52AM PST
I
see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section,
so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out
there that haven't figured it out.
What happened to all the nice guys?
The answer is simple: you did.
See,
if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic
guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag
along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie
when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there
and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the
(other) guy that you were fucking treated you.
At the time, you
probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy
dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay
attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had
a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little
pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him,
and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends."
Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too
short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to
dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall,
good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with
such ease.
Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your
relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with
this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating
him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or
became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to
him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term
relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the
bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche
bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"
Well, once again, you did.
You
ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without
reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his
consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend
more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint
and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that
women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make
dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned,
in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when
you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he
wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that
you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money,
and generally acted like more of an asshole than he ever wanted to be.
Fact
is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate
rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the
complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that
you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of
nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.
So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:
1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.
I
suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a
nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have
matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be
in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed
his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism
and resentment onto someone just like you.
If you were five years younger.
So,
please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the
fact that you've fucked yourself over. You're getting older, after all.
It's time to excise the bullshit and deal with reality. You didn't want
a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't fucking want you, now.
Sincerely,
A Recovering Nice Guy
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i saw this on one of the forums i frequent... when i first read it, i thought it was a pretty funny piece of writing... but then i got to thinking a little... about myself, that is...
it's true that not all girls are like how that guy described them... in fact, i know a lot of girls myself that would prove this guy wrong... but that's not the part of the post i want to address...
the part that i want to talk about is the nice guy part... which a lot of girls say i am... when i read the post, i got to thinking: "is that the reason i still don't have a proper girlfriend at my age? because i'm a nice guy, and girls rather be platonic friends with nice guys at my age?"...
took me a couple of days to come up with the conclusion i got...
it's true that i'm a nice guy... well, not a perfect one, but a nice guy nevertheless... but am i really?...
see, that's the reason why i don't have a proper girlfriend yet, probably... yeah, i'm not sure, but this is about the most solid conclusion i can come up with...
am i really a nice guy, or is that only a front that i'm putting up?... if i'm a real nice guy, will i remain a nice guy forever?...
those are the questions i came up with that needs to be addressed...
so, first question... no questions asked, i am definitely a nice guy... ask anyone i know, and they will all telll you the same thing... so by general consensus, i am a nice guy... unless i can fool everyone masterfully... frankly, that's something that even i doubt i can do...
second question... ok, so i'm a nice guy, but will i remain a nice guy forever?... my answer: why not?... i feel good about being a nice guy, so why change?... although i cannot vouch for myself in the future, but i'll try my best...
personally, for the girls that don't fit the description that guy wrote, i think the two questions are the reasons why i still don't have a girlfriend...
now the million dollar question that a lot of people ask me (that i even ask myself at times): when will i get a girlfriend?... well, it's kinda tough for me when all the girls i know just want to be friends, right?... and i'm not the type that like to hang out in clubs, so it's kinda hard to meet new girls... who knows, i might even have to wait till 30 before i get a girlfriend, and it wouldn't even surprised me (although 9 years is a long time... i don't know if i can survive alone for that long)...
but i'm not in a hurry... i just want the right girl (although i swear plenty went by already for me, but apparently i'm not the right guy)...
and this ends my yearly why-i-still-don't-have-a-girlfriend-and-couldn't-care-less-if-i-get-one-sooner-or-later-most-preferably-sooner post... see you next year, same place, same channel... if i don't have a girlfriend at that time, that is...
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| For all the rumour-mongering out there about the iPhone coming to Canada, the rumour mongers really missed a big fish today.
Before I reveal what they missed, let me state some facts.
Fact: Rogers Wireless is the only network in Canada currently capable of supporting the iPhone properly., and Apple and Rogers were actively trying to come to terms in order to put the iPhone on the Rogers product map (rumour is that they already have a deal in place).
Fact: Future Shop and Best Buy never had Rogers Wireless in their stores before today.
Fact: Future Shop and Best Buy would carry anything Apple.
Now, let's put all those facts together.
It has been know for a long time that Apple wants to release their iPhone in Canada; however, there was one thing that stopped them from doing so: the ownership of the trademark. The trademark "iPhone" in Canada was already owned by another company, Comwave Telecom Inc., who uses the trademark for their VoIP phones. Nobody other than the companies themselves would know if this trademark dispute has been resolved yet.
Future Shop and Best Buy suddenly carrying Rogers Wireless can mean a lot of things, considering before today, they had every single wireless carrier other than Rogers in their stores. Personally, I think it means that the iPhone will be in Canada (officially) in a very short amount of time.
As I stated above, Rogers Wireless is the only wireless provider in Canada with a network currently able to support the iPhone. Future Shop and Best Buy would do anything to sell Apple products (because they're the biggest cash cows out of the crop), and would have to carry Rogers Wireless in their stores in order to do so. Today, both stores start carrying Rogers products. That, for me, is a smoking gun if I've ever seen one.
The only question now is when will the iPhone be here? No one knows for sure, but my gut feelings tell me Apple will be announcing the iPhone in Canada really soon, most likely by the end of this month. There is no evidence to back up my claims here, so don't take my words for it.
All I know is that I'm looking forward to seeing the iPhone in Canada (officially; I've already seen a friend of mine with one).I just hope the price of the phone and the price of the plans will not completely gut my wallet. God knows it was gutted already just recently.
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| so i was working today at metrotown, and during my break, i decided to
walk over to Future Shop and check out some stuff... on my way across the mall, i
saw a little confrontation.. and this is no teenagers fighting over a
girl... NOOOOOOOO, this is an old chinese man getting at some
caucasians... this is what i saw...
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three
caucasians sitting on the bench, while a group of chinese people walked
by, with the one old man breaking off from the group and heading for
the caucasians...
the group looks back at the old man...
old man: (in cantonese) "you white people don't know what this is!"
the old man starts doing tai chi in front of the caucasians...
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trust me, it's funnier in person...
that's just part of the confrontation i saw... i didn't bother to stop to watch the whole thing because i was short on time... probably something happened to make the old man go like that, but it's funnier not knowing what happened...
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| man, that was a huge hiatus...
well, it's going to get longer... since i integrated my facebook with my xanga account, more of my friends that are on xanga moved to facebook or just got a facebook account in addition to xanga... so now, it'd make more sense to blog on my facebook instead...
so if you haven't added me to your facebook yet, just click on my pic here on xanga, and you'll see my facebook page... i'll still blog in xanga from time to time, but you'll see me more active on facebook...
so, goodbye xanga, for now... hopefully not forever...
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| seriously, i gotta update more often...
*looks at title of post, cue generic stand-up comedy starting line*
so i'm a human being, and as a human being, i have observed a lot during my daily life... one thing i have observed during my daily life is that a lot of people don't know what common sense is... webster defines it as a "sound and prudent judgment based on a simple perception of the situation or facts"... now, what i'm about to tell you might be graphic to those who lack the ability to make the above judgment... you have been warned...
i take the bus to work every day... and quite a few times, i take the bus during rush hour, so it is certain that there would be a lot of people wanting to board the bus at most stops... and of course, most of the time, there would be a person standing in the middle of the walkway partway up the bus, and therefore blocking access to the rest of the bus... common sense would tell you to either get out of the way so that people can pass you, or move up the bus yourself so that there would be more room for other people to board the bus... it never happens... they will have to wait until the bus driver tells them to move before they move... sometimes, even after the bus driver tells them to move, they wouldn't move... they have to wait till the bus driver singles them out in order for them to respond... is it really that hard for them to move up the bus?... to answer that question, i posed the question to a few people... in all cases, i got no response... looks like common sense is not the only thing that they were lacking...
in a day of work, i have to deal with a lot of customers... a lot of them ask questions like "what size do you have this in?" or "do you have more of these in the back?"... but some questions are not all that necessary...
one of the most frequent questions i get asked is "how much is this?"... let's assume for the moment that the items are not marked, but there are signs right above the items that tell of their prices, and they ask this question without even once consulting those signs.... how hard is it to tilt your head upwards a tiny bit and read out the numbers that are printed on there?... these are not even little kids that i'm talking about here... these are full-grown adults... nowadays, every time someone asks me that question, i pause for a second or two before i tell them... not because i'm pondering about the price, but because i'm pondering how mentally challenged you'd have to be to not be able to read a sign like that... yeah, i'm a mean bastard... but that's what you get for not using common sense...
another one of those questions would be "is this the fitting room?"... now, normally, that would not be that bad of a question, but most customers ask this question while pointing to a door with an "employee only" sign on it... seriously, do i even have to say this?... naturally, i just do the same thing as i would when people ask me "how much is this?"... coincidentally, those two questions would usually be asked by the same person... i think they haven't learn that signs are there to be read, not to be ignored... i thnk that would be part of what you'd learn as a part of, dare i say it, common sense?...
some of the funniest "no common sense" moments comes from specific situations... like the one i'm about to tell you now...
here's the setup: it's closing time, and two girls (both speaks really bad english... i presumed they're from eastern europe/russia based on their super-heavy accent) rushed into the store and asked me where the ski pants are... i directed them to the ski pants, but they were looking at the super-thin tearaways that we also have in a stone's throw away (granted, there are no stones to throw in the store, but you get the idea)...
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girl 1: these good for skiing?
me: no, those will rip very easily. the ski pants are over there.
girl 2: these waterproof?
me: a little, but not for skiing. you need those pants over there
girl 1: these, how much?
me: $9.99. but they won't do much. you need those pants there.
*awkward silence*
girl 1: so these good for skiing?
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that went on for about 5 minutes... and then another 5 minutes were spent on a jacket that is definitely no good for skiing (they were freaking huge and thick jackets, no joke) that costed $14.99... you can imagine the conversation, just replace the word "pants" with "jacket" and "$9.99" with "$14.99"... you definitely don't need common sense to ignore the salesperson... of course, unless the salesperson really don't know what he was talking about, but considering you don't know what you were talking about, i'd think they would've taken that chance and trusted me...
the really bad thing is that they said they were going skiing the next day... i wonder how badly it went for them...
it was pretty bad for me and my partner too... we ended up staying for an extra 15 minutes, and we don't get paid for it (we get paid based on our scheduled hours)...
all in all, the last five months of working there was interesting, to say the least... to be the only guy working there is not that bad either... of course, i had to do all the menial jobs, but it's not that bad... but i should really start submitting resumes to better places so that i can change jobs asap... and maybe cut down to only one job instead of two ièm doing right now... it all depends on the pay, i guess... it'd be a huge loss for nadex when i leave thought... i'm currently the biggest hours logger in the metrotown store for the last two months, and now they're giving me another half-shift to add to the half-shift i have on mondays... but it's pretty fun to work there, so i'm not complaining (that much... you'd think they'd raise my wage a little bit more by now)...
i should get to sleep now... i still have work tomorrow...
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